Many of you have probably heard about the experiment of psychologist Arthur Aron, which he conducted 25 years ago in his laboratory. He asked a man and a woman who had never met before to answer 36 questions together. Then they had to stare silently into each other's eyes for 4 minutes. Six months later, the experiment participants were ready to get married.
What is the secret to these questions? Answering them forces you to open up and show your areas of vulnerability, which helps to bring you closer to each other. It does not matter whether you are already in a relationship with your survey partner or not. For those who are not even familiar with the opponent, this test will allow you to get to know the person and even fall in love. For couples who will ask each other these 36 questions, it will help to get closer and find out things that you didn't know about each other yet. Oddly enough, this test can be taken not only by lovers and potential couples, but also by friends, parents and children, and relatives. It will help you understand each other better and look at your loved ones with different eyes.
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- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
- Would you like to be famous? In what way?
- Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
- What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
- When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
- If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
- Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
- Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
- For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
- Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
- Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
- What do you value most in a friendship?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- What is your most terrible memory?
- If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
- What does friendship mean to you?
- What roles do love and affection play in your life?
- Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
- How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
- How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
- Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ..."
- Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ...".
- If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
- Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
- Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
- When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
- Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
- What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
- If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
- Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
- Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
- Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
After answering all the questions, stare silently into each other's eyes for 4 minutes.
This list was brought back from twenty years of neglect by columnist The New York Times Mandy Len Catron, who recently decided to repeat Dr Aron's experiment on herself and an acquaintance. The experiment was successful and the participants really fell in love with each other.
Are you willing to risk falling in love for 36 questions?
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